Beginner’s Guide To Male Sex Toys

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Unsure which type of sex toy to buy?

Want an easy to follow guide that walks you through all of the different sex toys available and which are going to make you happiest?

This website will provide you with the answers to your questions so you can feel confident when making a purchase.

The rest of this page will provide simple explanations of the different types available and link to other sections with greater detail.

Types Of Male Sex Toys

1) Male Masturbators

The problem with using your hand to masturbate is that it’s got very little texture to it which feels nothing like sex.

There’s a warm, soft texture inside the vagina. Same with blowjobs. With the anus, there’s a pleasant squeeze around you.

The truth is, your hand can’t match the pleasure you get from these which is often why masturbation can’t contend.

A male masturbator is a sex toy that you insert your penis into and it provides you with pleasure which comes from varying textures.

They are often designed to mimic the feel of the mouth, vagina or anus.

Some of these toys are simple and cheap while others are much more realistic.

And some of these toys can even connect with matching female toys of porn-stars to give you a virtual experience of what its like to have sex with them.

Below, you can read about the different categories of male masturbator.

Textured Strokers

In terms of appearance, these look like rubber tubes with nubs on the inside.

Put your penis inside, stroke it up and down and away you go.

They’re easy to hide, don’t need electricity and don’t look too intimidating for your partner to use on you.

Who textured sleeves are recommend for:

  • Individual & couples experimenting with sex toys
  • Men who are travelling and need something discreet

For a more information on textured strokers, click here.

Realistic Strokers

Realistic strokers tend to be the first thing that comes to mind when thinking about male masturbators.

They have an opening that is made to look like vagina, a mouth or an anus to help you imagine what you are doing.

They’re often made of a stretchy, lifelike material which warms up to body temperature during use.

Inside is a textured canal, much like the inside of the textured sleeves that can be turned inside out for ease of cleaning.

They also have a hole at either side which makes them really easy to clean.

Who I’d recommend these for:

  • Guys on a budget who want more out of masturbation


Fleshlights are the most popular type of realistic stroker in the world, so much so, they had to give them a category of their own.

Their torch shape gives you something to hold onto while masturbating.

Why is this a good idea? You know when someone else gives you a handjob, it feels more pleasurable.

Well, it’s kind of like that. Touching your penis less recreates that sensation.

There’s more to Fleshlights than just the torch element though, they’ve re-invented the realistic stroker.

By focusing on making their sex toys look as real as possible, they help you imagine your fantasies.

They’ve even gone as far as making realistic looking moulds of porn stars’ mouths, vaginas and assholes.

This makes it feel like you’re really part of the action when you’re watching your favourite porn star.

Who I’d recommend these for:

  • Guys who want the most realistic masturbation session possible

For a more information on Fleshlights, click here.

Blowjob Machines

Do you remember when your last blowjob was?

Weeks? Months? Maybe even years ago?

For such a simple pleasure, it happens too rarely.

You know how frustrating it can be when craving a blowjob, but don’t have a partner at hand to give you one or maybe she’s not in the mood?

The best you’ve got is porn and your hand – which just don’t do it justice.

Enter the blowjob machine…

One day, someone thought it would be a great idea to add motion to male masturbators to recreate blowjobs.

They somehow managed to crack the ‘blowjob code’ and create a machine that gives your oral sex whenever you want.

They’re not too dissimilar in outward appearance to Fleshlights, but the key difference is their internal workings.

Instead of having to move the torch up and down yourself, the internal sleeve moves up and down by itself.

If that doesn’t make you sit up, get this…

They can be synced to porn clips and virtual reality devices, allowing you to live out your fantasies from your bedroom.

Who blowjob machines are recommended for:

  • Guys who want a realistic blowjob whenever they want

Click here to learn more about blowjob machines

Sex Dolls

Sex dolls have a pretty creepy reputation.

At one end of the spectrum, you’ve got those cheap inflatable options that are carried around on stag and hen nights.

Then at the other end, you’ve got futuristic artificial intelligent robots that talk to you.

Neither of these paints a particularly pleasant picture of these manikins.

So, what’s the attraction?

The truth is that most people who buy realistic sex dolls do it rarely just to have sex with them.

Instead, they’re used as a temporary substitute for a partner.

If you’ve just broken up with someone who you’ve been seeing for a long time and aren’t quite ready to ‘put yourself out there’, then a sex doll can be just what you need to keep you ticking along.

High-end sex dolls are just about unmistakable from real life people.

They’ve got life-like hair, eyes and, yes, all of the holes you need if you want to have sex with them.

Many owners form close attachments to them; washing them, brushing their hair and painting their nails.

Who I’d recommend these for:

  • Guys who are having difficulty getting over a previous partner, but still need sexual attention

2) Anal Stimulators

When you hear anything about anal sex and men, most people jump straight to the conclusion that it’s gay, but that couldn’t be further from the truth.

The only reason that gay men use anal sex toys is because it feels enjoyable. The sensation received when stimulating the prostate gland is, nothing less than, orgasmic.

Unfortunately, most straight men cast aside the prospect of even exploring their prostate because of society’s outdated perspective and they miss out on, quite possibly, the best orgasm they’ve ever had.

If you’re ready to learn about the different anal stimulators for men, keep reading.

Butt Plugs

Butt plugs are one of the most recognisable, yet the least understood sex toys.

Most people know that you put them in your bum, but aren’t sure why.

Even more interestingly, they’re mainly used by women who don’t have a prostate!

So, what’s the widespread appeal?

First of all, sex is something that when done repeatedly in the same way, can get boring.

One way to spice things up is to add different sensations into the mix.

In the anal canal, there are nerve endings that you can’t find in other parts of the body, so when you stimulate them whilst aroused, they enhance your overall sensation.

For men, there’s a bit more to butt plugs than just ‘doing things differently’.

Inserting a butt plug provides a constant stimulus to the prostate gland, giving a huge boost to masturbation, foreplay and sex.

Who I’d recommend these for:

  • Guys who are experimenting with prostate play with their partners

Click here if you want more info on butt plug

Prostate Massagers

Wondering how you can achieve an earth-shattering prostate orgasm?

Who wouldn’t turn that kind of sensation down?!

Prostate massagers are designed specifically to target the prostate gland.

They differ from butt plugs in that they’ve got a handle for you (or your partner) to control where they stimulus is directed.

For guys who are new to prostate massage, I’d recommend going for a larger sized massager to make it easier for you to find your prostate gland.

If you got for a toy that’s too small, there can be a lot of poking around.

Additionally, I’d suggest you start with something that doesn’t vibrate and work your way up.

The last thing you want to do is have a negative experience and put yourself off potentially a life-time worth of epic orgasms.

Who I’d recommend these for:

  • Guys who are ready to experience a full-body prostate orgasm

Click here for my recommended prostate massage toys

3) Performance Enhancers

Ever noticed that when your partner is enjoying themselves more, you get more back in return?

Male performance enhancers are designed to help us guys to give the ladies more pleasure.

From making our dicks bigger and harder to helping us to last longer before ejaculating.

Without these bad boys, we’d be done for!


Ever been ready to have sex, but your lady isn’t quite wet enough?

That’s where lubrication comes into play.

It’s basically the ‘engine oil’ for sex when her gears aren’t quite ready to grind.

Of course, you could give her a lick out and warm her up that way, but that isn’t always feasible.

Beyond sex, lubrication is basically a requirement for all sex toys.

If you’ve ever been masturbating and started to feel your penis getting a bit more tender, then times that by ten.

Getting the right amount of lube is a bit of an art.

If you use too little, you’ll feel friction and it’ll feel sore.

If you use too much, you won’t feel anything at all.

There’s a bunch of different types of lubricant depending on what your needs are.

Who I’d recommend these for:

  • Anyone who wants to use sex toys on a regular basis

Cock Rings

We’ve all been there. You’re coming towards orgasm, but your partner isn’t even close.

You try out a range of strategies to stave off ejaculation, but nothing works and she’s left wanting more.

As much as she re-assures you that it’s okay, it’s difficult not to feel embarrassed.

Cock rings aims to kill two birds with one stone by helping you last longer and making her orgasm quicker.

They delay ejaculation by compressing the area surrounding the base of the penis and testicles, restricting blood flood.

By adding a little vibrating device to the ring, it gives your lady friend a tingle that stimulates her clitoris.

Who I’d recommend these for:

  • For guys who want to last longer
  • For guys who want to give their lady a clitoral bonus during sex

Click here for more information on cock rings

Penis Pumps

You’re about to get your sexy time on with your lady. She’s giving you all the signals, but…


If you start to worry about why your penis isn’t getting erect, it just makes it worse and you start to panic.

The whole thing is a turn-off for your partner that could be easily rectified with a penis pump.

They work by placing a tube over your penis and pumping out the air to create a vacuum.

This draws blood into the penis and causes it to swell and “hey presto, you’ve got an erection!”

Who I’d recommend these for:

  • For guys who have a difficulty getting an erection and need a quick ‘pump-up’

Click here for more information on penis pumps

Penis Extenders

We’ve all heard of the different options available if you’re having trouble with a small penis.

You can mix up your positions, give more oral sex or add in some more sex toys to keep her satisfied!

And, while all of these can help ladies enjoy themselves more, it’s hard for women to deny that they are more attracted to guys with a bigger penis.

There’s hundreds of mysterious ways to grow your size, but the only technique that’s been clinically proven to increase the length and girth of your penis is penis extension.

These devices are no magic pill that works overnight, but they do work.

Who I’d recommend these for:

  • For guys feel their penis is too small and want to increase its size

Click here for more information on penis extenders

4) Female Sex Toys

If you’re looking for ways to provide greater pleasure to your woman then there are a series of female orientated sex toys that we can recommend.

These types of sex toys primarily focus on the clitoris and the g-spot, but there are a large number of variations of these toys which can be a little overwhelming.

We’ve put together a selection of the top toys for women that will have her thanking you again and again for getting her such a wonderful gift.

Click this link for more on female sex toys

5) Couple’s Sex Toy

And finally, there are couple’s sex toys, designed to enhance the pleasure of you and your partner at the same time.

These vary a little and so we have a category for each of these you can click on to read about more.

Close up couple’s toys – to be used while together and on each other.

Long Distance toys – to be used while apart but in connection with each other

Hand-cuffs / restraints – to enhance dominance during sex

Sex Games – To inspire new ideas for sex

Lubrication – to keep sex going

My name's Charlie, and I'm a sex therapist from LA. Over the past 20 years, I've helped thousands of men to overcome their sexual health problems. I aim to use this site to help men enjoy more fulfilling sex lives.